Published in Hello, Love·PinnedMember-onlyThe Three Elements Of MarriageWhat I’ve learned after 7 years of marriage. — We were three months shy of our 7 year wedding anniversary when we sat down in our room, and asked, “Is this it? Has our marriage run its course?” It was an honest moment. A real moment. We felt off; almost numb like we’d hit a plateau. That night, after…Marriage5 min readMarriage5 min read
PinnedMember-onlyThe Grass Is Never Greener — My Grass Is PurpleFor centuries,we have been using the saying “the grass is always greener on the other side” to express our perception that the lives of others is somehow better than ours. And while I understand the idiom, I’m challenged to believe that in actuality, not only is the grass on the…Envy4 min readEnvy4 min read
PinnedMember-onlyStart Here: A BLM Guide For White PeopleBecause Racism Wasn’t Built In A Day — In the last few months, my husband and I have gotten several text messages from a good friend. She’s a young, white woman with two kids, a husband, and a sleeve of bold, colorful tattoos. We’ll call her Samantha. She’s a pastor in Atlanta and since the day I met…BlackLivesMatter4 min readBlackLivesMatter4 min read
PinnedMember-onlyCan A White Girl Wear That?A conversation about head wraps and appropriation — “Can a white girl wear that?” She asked me after complimenting the style of my Ankara head wrap. She was one of my favorite white girls. I just liked her. Something about her was annoyingly sweet, hilarious, and so lovable. I wanted to be her friend. …Appropriation3 min readAppropriation3 min read
PinnedMember-onlyI Don’t Want To Be A Good PersonI want to be myself. — For as long as I remember, I’ve had this obsession with being a good person. I don’t know where it started. I think back to when I was a child, five or six years old — for the most part, I did the right thing and I wasn’t mean to…Self-awareness3 min readSelf-awareness3 min read
Mar 21Member-onlyJanuary Lessons: Commitment, Purpose, & MarriageA few things January taught me. I’ve been learning a lot of lessons lately. Lessons that have been a little hard to process because they’re all happening at once. Lessons I want to learn but am having a hard time deciphering what they actually are. I wrote down an idea…January6 min readJanuary6 min read
Feb 17Member-onlyHey, Big HeadA poem about loving beyond the tension Sometimes it seems so much easier to just go where we’re unknown. To befriend those who know nothing of our past or our present Secrets To be around those we’ve never hurt Who have never wronged us It’s easier to start over And welcome the new stares The new admirers…Poetry2 min readPoetry2 min read
Nov 18, 2022Member-onlyI’m Grateful for MyselfJournal thoughts on November 18, 2022 I’d like to start sharing thoughts from my journal sessions in the morning. They won’t be deep or long, or even full thoughts. But I figured if nothing else, having them out in the world is better than keeping them in the pages of my notebook. 10 Reasons I’m grateful for myself. 1. I’m proud of myself for showing up for myself this year. 2. I’m proud of myself for taking a breath every time I wanted to give up.Journal2 min readJournal2 min read
Aug 20, 2022Member-onlyLook Both Ways — And Follow Your DreamIf you’ve ever spent time away from your dream, you know how scary it is to attempt to find your way back. The horror that maybe you can’t write or sing or act or dance anymore because it’s been so long. The doubt that creeps in to tell you it’s…Motherhood4 min readMotherhood4 min read
