Because We Deserve Better.

Reflections on Denial, Change, and the Hulu show Queenie

A few nights ago, a couple friends and I sat around my kitchen island to play “We’re Not Really Strangers” over vanilla ice cream and rum cake.

We flipped a few cards over, each question a little deeper than the former. And then this card came up: Is there anything you’re lying to yourself about?

I sat and searched through my life to answer this question with accuracy and accountability.

“Is there anything you’re lying to yourself about?” My friend repeated the question out loud. The two of them reflected aloud on their lives and justified that there was nothing they were lying to themselves about.

I listened with the intent to either identify a lie or state with confidence that I too, wasn’t lying to myself about anything but I hadn’t come to a conclusion before the next card had been picked up. We moved on, the question still lingering within me.

Days later, I sat with another friend, Cici, on zoom. We talked about life transitions and new journeys — the ones that come to us with very little warning. We could both agree that if we’re paying attention, we may get a little tug in our spirit letting us know that it’s time to transition and if we’re smart, we let go. If we’re…